Almost 40-Year-Old Virgin

Tuesday, February 14, 2006

Alicia, first and last date

Girls with wealthy dads come in two types. The materialistic princess type is most common, and then there's the rebellious "I don't care about money" type which I especially dislike because their lack of concern about money is backed up by the knowledge that there's a Rich Daddy to fall back on. Alicia is the latter type of rich girl. She shares a one bathroom apartment with two other roommates. That's quite a commitment to being poor. Most of the girls in NYC have their own apartment on their parents.

Unfortunately for me, I got absolutely zero vibes that Alicia was in any way interested in me, so I guess she's not. No point calling her again, I guess. Too bad, because she looks pretty nice.

And not to dissappoint the people who hate me because I always mention how much money it costs to date, Alicia did not offer to pay for her drink.

CARR

She wants to meet me for a workday lunch. At least I don't have to worry about having to perform sexually, because we will both have to go back to our respective jobs at the end of the date.

Unlike Alicia, Carr does have her own apartment and I strongly suspect that her parents are helping her pay for it.

SHANNON

I called and left a message but she didn't call back yet. I think she's the type of girl who likes to play games like that.

Shannon probably pays for her own apartment with her salary. Between her, Carr and Alicia, Shannon has what I presume to be the highest paying job.

posted by Almost 40 virgin at 11:41 PM

14 Comments:

  • How convenient ... you tell us you don't like Alicia and how much you dislike the lifestyle you assume she has. Then you say she didn't like you, and then you ramp up the pity by saying you would have maybe been interested in her because she was pretty. So you turned it around to be a rejection of you, when it sounds like you were rejecting her before you even met her. What's that called? Cut off your nose to spite your face?

    By Blogger Caryn, at 2/15/2006 8:01 AM  

  • More questions, if you don't mind: If there are only two types of rich girls, and you don't like either type, why would you go out with her at all? And why would it be "unfortunate" that there wasn't a good vibe, considering she was of the type that you dislike the most?

    From what I've read on your blog, you seem generally interested in having a relationship, not just a one-night stand. So aren't you looking for someone you actually like? Or am I incorrect?

    I'm not getting pissy or jumping all over you -- I'm just asking questions.

    By Blogger FTN, at 2/15/2006 9:08 AM  

  • I don't know why you are so shocked these woman don't offer to pay for their own drinks. For every guy that doesn't want to buy a woman drinks, there are three who will and they like it. Stop being a cheap ass, save that for later in the relationship.

    By Blogger Bama Girl, at 2/15/2006 9:51 AM  

  • I agree with the person who said a woman can't win. If she's wealthy and uses that, you don't like her. AND if she's not, you don't like her.

    You make all these assumptions and it seems like there's no one left you could like.

    Carr seems to really like you. Why don't you make it clear that you only want to be friends with her, so you don't have to keep worrying about whether you'll have sex at the end of your dates. You don't want to mislead the girl. And you know what, once you get the nervousness out of the way, maybe an attraction will grow. Or if not, you can certainly use more female friends.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 2/15/2006 10:07 AM  

  • I've found that guys who make a lot of money are, by and large, incredibly boring. They have nothing to talk about; they think they can buy a fancy dinner and 'buy' women.

    But wait...I'm making an unfair stereotype about you, Virg. Now you see how it feels? Even if it's often true, I'm still hopeful and I wouldn't apply it to all men.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 2/15/2006 1:57 PM  

  • It sounds like you are losing control of the whole dating situation Virg. It is messing with your head. I'm sure you are feeling very confused about it all. I would suggest you give it a break for a while and take a chance on fate. At least until you feel a bit calmer.

    By Anonymous aussiegirl, at 2/15/2006 9:03 PM  

  • dating DOES mess with your head. the people start blending together. it becomes like work.

    but virg, want to go out some time? ;) (seriously, would you date a reader? we can go Dutch. =)

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 2/15/2006 10:55 PM  

  • Seriously, though, you wouldn't even KNOW Alicia's parents were rich if you hadn't Googled her? I guess I don't get why it matters. My parents have plenty of money -- but they made it on their own, through a lot of hard work -- and they don't subsize me at all. For all you know, Alicia and her parents don't even speak. You make a LOT of assumptions about what women -- and people -- are like, and I think it's really biting you in the ass.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 2/16/2006 12:33 AM  

  • In reading this journal the thing that has jumped out at me more than anything else is your utter disdain for women.

    Perhaps, instead of judging each woman you meet based on your own meritless assumptions, you tried to figure out why you think the absolute worst of women you'd have better luck. If this contempt is this apparent in print, I imagine in person you are sending out a vibe that isn't just negative--it's probably threatening.

    One final note: I am a woman in NYC and I have never--nor have any of my female friends--had "daddy" pay my rent. Perhaps we are anomalies. Or perhaps you need to think this women are dependent on someone else so that you are justified in your belief that they are beneath you.

    Since they likely have more sexual experience than you, you have to one-up them somehow, right?

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 2/16/2006 10:18 AM  

  • Virgin, there's one thing that comes through here. You are hurting women, and yourself, based on all these assumptions. Every woman is different. So stop it.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 2/16/2006 6:11 PM  

  • Hey, just found your blog - what a find! Great blog.

    Oh, and I don't buy drinks for women. Cumon, Bama Girl, admit it - you're just an alcoholic whose too broke to buy her own booze ;-)

    By Blogger SPG, at 2/16/2006 7:30 PM  

  • I'm not one to turn down a free drink, nothing wrong with that. Besides, I buy guys drink on the occasion, even dinner sometimes.

    By Blogger Bama Girl, at 2/17/2006 10:55 AM  

  • is anyone else wondering why exactly a n almost forty year old man is concered at all with parents? i'm twenty four...if a guy i was dating determined my 'potential' and my 'financial standing' from my parents, i'd just roll on the ground laughing and tell him to get a clue.

    Woman are adults. We are individuals. Start thinking of women as such and perhaps you'll stop attracting the ones who are not.

    By Blogger al, at 2/23/2006 5:17 PM  

  • I am 41 years old male and still a virgin live in los angeles

    By Anonymous Mikhail, at 2/03/2007 12:27 AM  

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