Almost 40-Year-Old Virgin

Wednesday, May 10, 2006

Miriam calls me

Who is Miriam? I met her for coffee a weekend and a half ago, and we "hung out" for quite some time and we had an early dinner and I even paid for the dinner. It only cost $21. She's a doctor--a specialist in fact--so she probably has enough of her own money to go Dutch in the future.

Miriam can best be described as "frumpy." She wears glasses. The scariest thing about Miriam is that she has all these gray hairs. A woman in her mid thirties shouldn't have gray hairs. Hasn't she ever heard of Miss Clairol? She really needs to pay a visit to my hair stylist. She also needs to lose a few pounds.

I was kind of shocked to hear from her. This is surely the first time in my life a woman called me on the phone after a first date after which I never called her. And it was a double shock after reading all those comments about how I'm so despicable that no woman could ever like me.

And I discovered that Miriam has been reading my blog. No not this blog!!!! My other blog that no one reads. When you write about important stuff, like the war in Iraq and the next presidential election, no one wants to read it. But then I start a blog where I write about my sexual problems and I get hundreds of visits a day. It's sad that the other blog will never be as popular as this one.

23 Comments:

  • I'm 20 and got quite some grey hairs :(


    Ahhh, fuck it :-) I don't care!

    By Anonymous BG, at 5/11/2006 1:34 AM  

  • ""...all those comments about how I'm so despicable that no woman could ever like me.""

    No one has ever said that. Only you have said that.

    For the last time: The comments are that you should stop stereotyping women. You have a much better chance with them if you do that.

    And also: The comments are that you should stop stereotyping women.

    Half of what you write is equivalent of a woman assuming like a male virgin like you could possibly exist. You don't like stereotypes, so why make them about others? If all women are so bad, then why bother at all?

    The War in Iraq is stupid and Bush sucks, but there are 20,000 blogs about that. Why read you when we can read Kos?

    Also, Kos doesn't say "I won't date Asians" based on a really bad example of a woman who used you for drinks and food.

    Atrios doesn't say things like, "Hey a girl actually called me back! SHe must be ugly or something."

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 5/11/2006 3:33 AM  

  • You are not dispicable. Your continual stereotyping of women is.

    Just because you've met the wrong ones, doesn't mean there isn't a right one for you. All those other people who are single at your age are worried, too.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 5/12/2006 1:29 AM  

  • can i have that other blog address- i do actually want to read about that stuff too. i like your style

    princess_irish@hotmail.com

    Kitt

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 5/12/2006 6:24 PM  

  • I would be pissed off if I had some grey hairs. :(

    But anyhow, I wonder if this girl might be the one!

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 5/13/2006 2:25 AM  

  • We are all still wondering what you look like that you should be so picky about looks.

    By Blogger joanne, at 5/13/2006 11:29 PM  

  • virg, sometimes you really make me laugh, and sometimes you just piss me off with your willingness to take something that a woman does and generalize it to all women. but i still hope you find someone. not necessarily to lose your virginity to right away, but to have a love, warm relationship with.

    i was on a date tonight with a guy and we were fooling around and he was unable to get it up, and while if it was you, you would probably assume it was your fault, but of course i assumed it was MY fault (so both parties tend to be insecure sometimes). but i like him a lot so i don't really care.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 5/14/2006 3:50 AM  

  • I find gray hair quite classy. (And most dyes damage hair and have horrible colours.)
    You might have found an unpolished diamond. Or not.

    By Anonymous G., at 5/14/2006 3:04 PM  

  • Why is it that gray hair on a man is "distinguished" but not on a woman?

    Just found your blog. You are very clever! Good luck with the dating stuff. Miriam sounds like a strong woman..many men would be intimidated by that...

    By Blogger teahouse, at 5/14/2006 3:40 PM  

  • Gray hairs can be died and clothes can be changed, it's the person inside that really matters. as corny as it is, it's true...everybody wants a ready made relationship. add water and enjoy...you gotta give some to get some!

    get some virg!
    get some!

    By Blogger Frog Kisser, at 5/14/2006 9:33 PM  

  • I don't believe this guy is a virgin, or at least he must be working very hard to stay one. He dates so many women -- by the law of averages one of them eventually throws themselves at you, no more virginity

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 5/14/2006 11:51 PM  

  • Don't listen to them virgin...Gray hair sucks..Dated a woman who had them only on her privates. I would pluck em out before I did ??????? lmaof

    You have one life to live my friend and if you want to wait until the right chick comes and she's mentally and physically pleasing to you.TEAR THOSE SUGAR WALLS UP!!!

    Slish has left the bulding

    By Blogger Mr.Slish, at 5/15/2006 11:53 PM  

  • That's very interesting you mention Iraq. I mentioned it recently, and I agree. But is it that people go for the sensational (sic - what isn't more sensational than Iraq?). Or is it that people find it easier to conceive of things they can deal with on an intimate one-to-one basis easier? If there was an Iraqi on the net hereabouts, I think you'd find his or her blog would be frigging flooded.

    By Blogger Troy, at 5/16/2006 5:05 PM  

  • I won't mind getting grey hairs, BTW. And I think a few greys in a woman's hair can even be kinda like frosting. I'm getting the funny feeling you're just winding us up, A40YOV. Please tell me it aint so.

    By Blogger Troy, at 5/16/2006 5:12 PM  

  • Where can you eat dinner for twenty one bucks?

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 5/17/2006 3:36 PM  

  • Hey there,

    I'm a 29-year old straight guy who's still a virgin myself. I've never had a romantic interaction with anybody (never kissed a girl or held hands or anything like that). Its mostly my own fault since it is part of a larger pattern of cowardice and sloth (and some mendacity) in my life that I have yet to summon the will to overcome. I can't even blame depression, a broken heart, abuse or anything else. I'm just lazy, and haven't lived up to my potential in my education, professional life, friendships, relationship with my parents, etc. I figure I have to work on those things first before I can even begin to have anything to offer someone else.

    Not to take anything away from your own hardship, but you seem to have a rather prolific and interesting dating life, and that already puts you ahead of the game not to mention a good formal education and a successful career. You've got more going for you than you think, I figure things will work out for you. Anyway I was interested in knowing about your other blog as I'd like to know about your views about the Iraq war, politics, etc. I already know about virginity:-)

    Hope to hear back from you.

    By Anonymous sWaTkiNd, at 5/19/2006 6:23 PM  

  • I was twenty-six when I lost mine, Swatkind. The "you have to get a job first" thing? I don't know if I agree with that. Fling. You never know when a fling is gonna happen (plus some dates). It's happenned to me three times. You're not a coward, you're not lazy, you're just human. Stop feeding your brain negative stuff (that's what I used to do). Everyone repeat the mantra!!!: "Iiiiohhmmmm a Stuuuud!" It's all bullshit, man. Getting a job, a girl, a car (mo-ped in my case).

    By Blogger Troy, at 5/22/2006 10:53 AM  

  • I'm a 28-year-old virgin and I guess I'm in the same boat as swatkind. I'm behind in everything and even though troy says don't feed your mind with negative thoughts I don't see anything for me in the future even if I try from this stage, but still will. It's better to die alone and know you tried than it is to die alone and know you didn't

    By Anonymous Mark Thompson, at 6/19/2006 1:34 PM  

  • Maybe if you got a personality transplant, you could find true happiness and love. Your blog reeks of desperation and bitterness. Who could possibly be attracted to that?

    I know you say that you're not really blessed in the looks department, but honestly that really doesn't matter. I know a lot of ugly people who have found love. Hell, I've even started liking guys who I haven't initially been attracted to. It's called charm, charisma, and sex appeal. They are mutually exclusive from looks, and draw people in.

    You're definitely interesting to read, but I think it's because you have this "train wreck" sort of quality about you.

    By Blogger Cheetarah1980, at 7/13/2006 12:36 AM  

  • If you aren't that blessed in the looks department and you can only have so much to offer, why exactly do you get to be a nit. It could be that you find a beautiful, unflawed woman who accepts you...but only because she doesn't want to work and when you're gone she calls a guy who actually knows what he's doing in bed. What exactly do you have to offer...other than being bitter. Most people don't really find that as a turn-on.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 8/18/2006 11:55 AM  

  • I'm amazed men like you still exist. It's your attitude that's stopping you from meeting someone. I would like to ask why you think some Anglina-esque specimen of womanhood is going to fall at your feet, but actually I'm amazed you even care. Surely if not blessed in the looks department yourself, you can see how trivial physical appearance is compared to all of the other things a person has to offer? Are all your friends stunning? All your family? Stop being so shallow and you might find some happiness.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 2/22/2007 9:05 AM  

  • Looks do matter - anyone who tells you different is lying, because they don't want to hurt your feelings.

    Being a older virgin in your 30s means that you are considered ugly by women.

    Just learn to love yourself - that's the only way you can live with the fact you are ugly.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 9/13/2008 8:53 PM  

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